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Learn to Lap Dance Easily

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Learn to Lap Dance

Learn to Lap Dance

Why Learn to Lap Dance?

If learning how to pole dance is now known as an exercise routine, lap dancing is still the same old art of seducing your man. If you’re here looking for ways to learn to lap dance, then probably, you are preparing for a honeymoon or a getaway with your partner and you are wanting to surprise him with your seductive, stripper-like moves.

How to Learn to Lap Dance

The first way to learn to lap dance is by taking formal lessons. Although lap dancing is not as popular as pole dancing, there are some gyms that do offer this. You can also take studio lessons as an alternative. If you want your privacy though, buying a DVD that teaches lap dancing may be the best way to go. All these have pros and cons though, gyms will bring you less privacy but you will have someone to teach you and correct you immediately if you’re doing something wrong, while buying an instructional DVD will not give you the benefit of being able to ask questions.

Another way to learn to lap dance is by going to strip clubs. There, you can watch actual  dancers perform it. The downside to this though is you won’t be able to learn it and dance it while learning.

Some Techniques to Learn to Lap Dance

The basic moves when lap dancing all involves showing your sexy side. It might really be uneasy at first, but if you want a romantic and wild night with your partner, it will be all worth it. Some of the moves that you must keep in mind are moving your hips seductively, caressing parts of your body, crawling on the floor, grinding on his lap and showing sexy facial expressions. Try doing all of these one by one, then try to put them all together and dance to the music. Remember to wear proper clothes too! Of course, pick something that will highlight your features, like lacy or transparent clothes. You might want to give him some striptease too.

Know This Before You Learn to Lap Dance

Learning this erotic dance is not very difficult, although, we can say that there is a challenge in studying this at first, because you might feel a bit uneasy in the beginning. But as you study and learn to lap dance with the more difficult steps, you will become confident, thus you will look and feel better while doing this as time passes.

Another important thing to remember is that you need to perfect this “skill” before you even try to put on a show in front of your man, otherwise, you might feel uncomfortable instead of sexy.

Doing all this for your man will show him that you really are putting in some effort to spice up your life as a couple, thus, it is a great way to improve your relationship.

Learn to lap dance and you will surely find a happier man and partner!

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Learn to Dance in a Club

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You have started dancing in private, preparing to strut your stuff and impress people with your moves… but in reality, your confidence ends in your room. After rigorous practice, you want to bring your dancing skills to the next level and go out in public… then learning to dance in a club may be the perfect option for you.

Before You Learn to Dance in a Club

If you are not the person described above, who has been dancing in their bedroom for a few months already, or if this is your first time to attempt to learn to dance in a club, then there are things you still need to do and keep in mind.

Dancing is a physical activity. Before attempting to learn to dance in a club, be sure you a in good enough shape to handle the exercise – or use learning to dance to get you into shape, taking breaks as you need. Do some walking, body shaking, or any activity that would prepare you for the “exercise”. If you have a knee injury or any problems with your health, it’s best to consult a physician first before doing any physical activity.

Learn to Dance in a Club

Learn to Dance in a Club

 

Aside from that, you should also be aware of what kind of dancing you’d like to learn. The most common clubs actually are hip-hop clubs, which, more or less are for younger people. But there are also other clubs like salsa clubs and ballroom dancing clubs where you could learn how to dance your preferred style. Explore what you like. It is very important, because then you’ll enjoy what you are learning and stick with it.

Learn to Dance in a Club by Observing

Now that you have decided what type of dance you would do, you can start your learning by going to the club that grooves with the same moves that you like. Observe the people on the dance floor and look at what they are doing. Visit that club frequently so that you can at least feel the music and you can even ask the help of some people who dance well.

What to Keep in Mind While Trying to Learn to Dance in a Club

Like any other activity, you also have some things to remember while learning to dance in a club. These are somehow “unwritten rules” that you follow if you want to improve and look good while learning and dancing.

Don’t worry about what other people think. Most people are in their own little world and are not even watching you… so dance with the music and feel it. Your grace in dancing will come as you practice more.

Put attention on your footwork.

Practice. Keep practicing. Don’t over-think, don’t mind other people, just do it! Feel the vibe, and looking good while dancing will definitely follow. Dancing is not learned overnight, especially if you are only learning at the club, but with enough practice you will surely find that one day, you look impressive enough.

Dancing, is not purely learning some steps, memorizing beats and applying them to music. You have to enjoy what you are doing, or you’ll loose interest very quickly.

Beginning to learn to dance in a club, even if it may seem like you are just doing it as a hobby, still requires you to have a heart for it, so you can sustain your interest in dancing.

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Learn to Pole Dance! All the Basic Things to Know To Get You Started

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Pole dancer Rafaela Montanaro performing

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Pole dancing is a form of  dance that originated from strip clubs. This dance is commonly known for its erotic tenor.

However, as more people are becoming aware of its health benefits, pole dancing is slowly becoming popular, both as a sport and as a hobby or a form of exercise. As it becomes popular more health institutions and facilities like gyms and sports clubs are offering courses so that people can learn to pole dance.

How Would You Like to Learn to Pole Dance?

There are numerous ways in which you can learn to pole dance. Aside from gyms and health facilities that offer pole dancing courses, there are also a lot of individuals or experts offering private instruction.

Learning to pole dance by watching DVDs or Internet videos could be an option, but there are two drawbacks:  1.  you have to buy a pole to install at home; 2 you won’t really know whether or not you’re doing the moves right and there is no one to correct you if your form is not good, this can actually lead to injury.  It’s best to use this option as a supplement to a formal instruction.

Owning a Pole : Is It Needed for You to Learn to Pole Dance?

At this point, you may be asking if you should buy a pole for yourself. It really depends. If you’re studying in a studio or gym, then chances are their facilities are equipped with poles where you could practice. But if you are self-studying, then owning one is a must. However, there are also those who choose to own one and install it at home even if they already are doing pole dancing classes at a health club. This is just because they are really passionate about it that they want to do it even if there’s no class.

You may be asking, what if you cannot afford to buy a pole yet, but you are really serious about learning to pole dance. There are strengthening exercises that you can do like sit-ups, push-ups, crunches which are ab workouts that can help you to be strong on the pole. Continue exercising and strengthening your muscles at home so that when you arrive at your gym or wherever you’re studying pole dance, you will be ready.

First Steps to Learn to Pole Dance

The first thing you need to remember is to practice the basic moves. Learn how to properly grab the pole. You must remember to start grabbing using your stronger hand.  And because you need to feel the flow, you could start stepping around the pole while listening to music. Once you get the feel, start doing hooks with your leg and arching your body. Do this until your movement is fluid before you start doing the other pole tricks.

After that you can start learning different things like spinning, where the most basic step is the fireman spin. Then as you progress and your body is stronger, you can start with lifting your body weight while on the pole. But before you dream of doing inverted exercises, remember to master the basics first!

If You Want to Learn to Pole Dance…

Then what are you waiting for? Claim your pole either by going to your gym and asking if they offer any classes or by watching videos on a streaming site. Check if you really want to learn to pole dance.

As long as you are physically able and you have a reason for wanting it, you can start grabbing a pole and begin to learn to pole dance!

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Is your ballroom dance instructor certified?

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Ballroom Dance is sweeping this country. It’s on TV, on Broadway and in Hollywood. American’s can’t seem to get enough of it! Television, movies and theater have brought ballroom back to American mainstream, but, the question is, who is teaching America how to dance?

It turns out, there’s a shortage of qualified ballroom dance teachers.


No Regulation in Ballroom Instruction

Did you know that there is NO governing or regulatory body that oversees the certification of teachers in the Ballroom Dance industry? This has given the industry a bad name for years.

Picture this: you’re inspired by the shows and head off to your local Park District to take a class – the instructor there has watched a few YouTube videos and is now a self-proclaimed ‘instructor’. You have a hard time with the steps and decide dancing is not for you and give up.

This happens EVERYDAY. But the issue is NOT with you, the client, the problem is that you had an untrained teacher that didn’t know how to break it down and make it easy!

“We struggle to find enough credentialed teachers” says Alex Wilhelm, studio manager for a prominent studio in Chicago’s south suburbs. “Anyone can claim they’re an instructor, but we only hire teachers who have passed their exams. It’s important to us to offer quality instruction.”

 

Ballroom Teachers: One Step Ahead

Many of the larger, chain studios even place ads for instructors that say ‘no experience necessary’. This means that those instructors are learning on the job and are usually only one or two lessons ahead of their clientele. An unsuspecting customer pays for a teacher and gets someone that knows just enough to teach a lesson. PLUS, newly hired teachers spend years feeling stressed and overwhelmed with a ‘fear’ that they’ll be asked something they don’t yet know and their cover will be blown! It’s outrageous.

 

The Ballroom Teacher College

As the popularity of ballroom has increased, so has the determination to reform the industry. Diane Jarmolow, founder of the Ballroom Teacher’s College in California, developed a core curriculum that covers all aspects of teaching 17 different dances over a period of 16 months.

She worked with top instructors across the country and used it to train hundreds of successful teachers in her own studio. She then made the course available to other ballrooms that were interested in having trained, credentialed staff instead of trying to teach their teachers ‘on the fly’ and hope for the best.

 

Find a Certified Ballroom Dance Instructor

To find a good instructor near you, read the article, “Are All Ballroom Instructors The Same?  A Quick Guide to Finding a Qualified Instructor“.  It covers the misconceptions and solutions and provides specific questions to ask instructors in your area.

“the Ballroom Teacher Certification course is one of the best things that has happened to the ballroom dance industry,” says Maren Oslac, owner of the Illinois Ballroom Teacher College  (www.ILBTC.com)  “Teachers need to be required to pass exams and get certified, bad teachers give our entire industry a horrible reputation.”

 

 

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Are All Ballroom Instructors The Same?

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The Quick Guide to Finding a Qualified Instructor

 

You’ve got the ballroom dance bug and want to take a few classes so that you look good at the next wedding or function you attend, but you don’t know where to start… we’ll here’s the quick and easy guide to choosing the best ballroom instructor or studio for you.

Sadly, without this information, many people wind up choosing a poorly qualified ballroom dance teacher (or school); and, sometimes, even worse, have such a negative experience, decide that dancing is something they’ll never try again.

We’ll cover a few misconceptions that people have about choosing a dance instructor and then get into specific questions YOU can ask to when you’re looking around.

 

Misconception ONE:

The term ‘Ballroom Dance’ refers to the smooth floating dances.

That’s only part of the story. It’s true, AND ballroom dancing is a term that really encompasses the smooth dances, the latin and rhythm dances, the swing dances, Salsa, Tango and so much more.

 

Solution/Question(s) to ask:

If there is a dance you want to learn, or several that interest you, look for a well rounded instructor, or a studio with multiple instructors and be sure to ask about those specific dances.

Do you/does your studio teach ______ (swing, salsa, tango, etc.)

 

Misconception TWO:

Ballroom/Swing/Salsa Teachers go to school to learn to teach ballroom/swing/salsa dancing.

NO! This couldn’t be further from the truth. It makes sense, they are teachers – other teachers have to graduate and have credentials. But there is no regulation in the ballroom dance industry.

This means anyone can call themselves a Ballroom Dance Instructor, a Swing Dance Instructor, etc. There are people that have taken a few classes, watched a few YouTube Videos, or even won a few contests, and they are teaching.

You may have taken a class and gotten turned off. It happens ALL THE TIME and it gives the industry a bad name.

 

Solution/Question(s) to ask:

There are actual ballroom dance teacher colleges, professional exams and professional certifications. There ARE qualified teachers. And you can ask questions to help you find them.

The most widely recognized accrediting agency is ‘Dance Vision International Dance Association’ (DVIDA), which is recognized by the National Dance Council of America (NDCA).

Teachers get certified in EACH dance they learn, and there are levels of certification. So if you want to learn Waltz, be sure your instructor has, at minimum, his or her Bronze Waltz Certification.

Ask what credentials s/he has and where and when s/he got them. If you get a story about why ‘there’s no need, or no schools for his/her dance’, etc, beware.

Are you a certified instructor?

In what dances?

From what accrediting agency?

What school did you attend?

 

Misconception THREE:

A great dancer makes a great teacher.

I wish this were true – then it would be easy to find a teacher – just look for the number of awards. However, the problem is that most great dancers don’t learn how to EXPLAIN what they do so naturally.

Have you ever noticed that most of the Olympic gymnastic and skating coaches are not great gymnasts or skaters?

Dancing and teaching dance involve two different sets of skills. The highly trained dancer has usually spent years and years developing only ONE of those sets of skills (clue: teaching is not the set they’ve developed). So often they make TERRIBLE teachers. (This is not always the case.)

 

Solution/Question(s) to ask:

Some great dancers retire and focus their attention on becoming great teachers. This becomes a terrific combination. You can ask about their certification (above) and you can also ask about how they’ve worked on their teaching skills.

What training have you had to develop your teaching skills?

 

Overall, your experience is the best judge of your instructor. Armed with these three essential pieces of knowledge:

  1. the term Ballroom encompasses most ‘couples’ dances
  2. there is no regulation in the ballroom dance industry
  3. a great dancer does not equal a great teacher

you will be a savvy consumer. Ask lots of questions and don’t be afraid to look a bit further if you’re not getting the answers you want!

 

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The Nine Essential Dos and Don’ts of Asking Someone to Dance

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There are some unwritten rules of etiquette that ballroom dancers follow and it’s essential to know them if you are going go dancing and enjoy yourself! In this article, ‘ballroom dancing’ is used as a generic term referring to most forms of couples dancing… including Ballroom dancing, Latin dancing, Swing dancing and Salsa dancing.

Essential Dance Etiquette

1. A dance invitation can be given by either gender. This is important. Feel free to ask a gentleman to dance, they often times barely make it off the floor and if you want to dance, it’s best to not ‘wait’ for an invitation.

2. It’s acceptable, and even expected that you dance with people other than your partner. Most dancers enjoy a variety of dance partners and dancing with someone besides your partner strengthens leading and following skills making dances with your partner that much better!

3. Chivalry still lives in the dance community! Regardless of who asks whom, the man still escorts the lady back to where he found her! Please don’t abandon your partner mid-floor!

4. All levels of dancers enjoy dancing…. Please don’t ‘out dance’ your partner if you have the privilege of dancing with someone not as accomplished as you. It’s intimidating and frustrating. Everyone was a beginner at some point, remember what it was like for you and offer a fun, engaging and gracious dance that will inspire this newer dancer to continue!

5. It’s considered polite to dance with whoever asks. If you’ve just come off the floor from a fast-paced dance or have been dancing several songs in a row and need a break, it’s acceptable to take a song or two. Please be sure to resume your dancing with the person who asked you when you needed a break!

6. There are traveling dances and stationary dances. Traveling dances (Waltz, Tango, Viennese Waltz, Foxtrot, Samba, Country Two Step, Polka, etc.) travel counter clockwise around the floor. It’s important to go with the flow of traffic.

7. During traveling dances, faster moving dancers usually use the outer most edge of the floor, while slower moving dancers move towards the center. Be aware of the ‘lanes’ of traffic and do your best to dance where it’s appropriate

8. If you bump into another couple (which does happen), apologize sincerely and offer a smile. Dancers do their best to avoid collisions, and with people moving about the floor executing different patterns, occasional crashes are inevitable. Make sure no one is hurt and then get back to dancing!

9. Dancing with a partner means sharing their space. It’s important to be ‘fresh’, dry and smelling good. If you perspire a lot, bring a change of shirts (or several) and a towel. Everyone needs to wear deodorant and carry mints!

While not an exhaustive list, this does cover the basics. There are no ‘dance police’ to enforce the rules or hand out punishments. However, most dancers show one another politeness and consideration making ballroom dance a unique and wonderful pastime for everyone involved!

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Etiquette for Ballroom, Swing & Salsa Dancing

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Ballroom Dance ShoeOne of the things that is rarely covered by a dance instructor in Ballroom, Swing or Salsa dance class is “dance floor etiquette”.  Some common social dance questions are:

What is the proper way to ask someone to dance?

Can anyone ask anyone else?

Is there a protocol for turning someone down?

How do you let potential partners know you are interested in dancing?

Let’s establish some ground rules to make it simple.

Rules For Requesting a Dance

1. Anybody Can Ask Anybody.

In today’s day and age, a woman asking for a dance is a common occurence.  (Remember that it’s a dance, not a date!)  For either gender, it’s best to be aware of clearly exclusive couples unless you know for certain that they are interested and available to dance with others.

2.  Respect Partners’ Dance Time

You may enjoy dancing with a particular person, and it’s ok to request a second dance, but it’s NOT ok to monopolize their time throughout the evening.  Asking for a second dance in a row is acceptable if you only made it to the floor for a portion of the current song.  Then you have to move on.  You can ask that person for another dance later in the evening – be sure to space out your requests.

3.  Ask Lots of People

The best way to improve you dancing – is by dancing!  Getting out on the floor and staying there with a variety of people, not only is good practice, but it’s great exercise and much more fun that sitting on the side watching.  In addition, you have the opportunity to get others to feel good about themselves!

4.  Pay Attention

Asking another to dance means risk – the risk of someone saying no!  Look for people that are close to the dance floor and look like they want to get onto the dance floor.  Avoid someone in deep conversation, or someone standing at the back of the room unless you know the person.  Watch body language as well – not every shoe fits and there will be some people that would rather dance with someone else.  If you approach and they turn away, don’t take it personally, and look elsewhere for your next dance.

Rules for Accepting or Declining a Dance

1.  Always Accept a First Invitation to Dance

Someone has built up the courage to ask you to dance, it’s only decent to accept.  If there is some glaring reason that you can’t accept (you danced the last 10 dances and need a break, it’s a Waltz and you don’t Waltz) clearly explain WHY you can’t dance with them in that moment, and then FIND THAT PERSON LATER when you are able to dance.

2.  If You Decline a Dance, Sit That One Out

If you’ve told someone ‘no’ for a dance, then don’t dance.  It’s insulting and painful to be rejected only to have the person you asked to gladly dance with another.

3.  The Only Three Reasons to Say No

Dances last about three minutes, being polite and gracious is easy in three-minute doses.  Having said that, there are only three acceptable reasons to decline a dance invitation after the first:

  1. Fear of injury.
  2. Inebriation.
  3. Intolerable hygiene.
  4. Inappropriate body contact.

The Golden Rule of Social Dancing

All other rules fall behind one simple rule of thumb:  Be polite and treat others the way you want to be treated.  Social dancing is only fun if people are social.  Do your part to help keep it fun!

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